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#1 Posted : Tuesday, March 18, 2014 9:27:57 AM(UTC)

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My son just turned 25 months. Early intervention has evaluated him and did confirm he has a pretty severe speech delay. They also diagnosed with some form of social delay. I didn't really understand completely but from the initial explanation she said he didn't seem very interested in playing with her and seemed to want to play more independently. His first therapy sessions start this week. My husband is a stay at home dad so he's never been in any kind of daycare. We just started him on a learning program that's two days a week for 3 hours. So far he's only been twice. The first time he was ok and cried for over an hour after he realized we had left. Yesterday he cried as I dropped him off and his teachers said he cried almost the entire time! It breaks my heart and I just want to do what's best for him. I thought interaction with other kids may help stimulate his speech and social skills. My question is should I pull him and hold off until he can communicate better? I know most kids need adjustment time, but knowing he has some special needs, I don't want him to constantly disrupt the class or for him to become traumatized by the experience. Would you recommend I try out a few more weeks to see of he adapts? It's just hard to imagine your child crying for almost 3 hours straight :( thank you and I'm so happy to have found this forum. This is my first child and my husband and I were early talkers and never had any issues. It's been extremely hard knowing my son isn't at a level he "should" be and for weeks I blamed myself. I just want to do what is absolutely best for him.
Mary Lou SLP  
#2 Posted : Friday, March 21, 2014 2:19:46 PM(UTC)
Mary Lou SLP

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Hi and welcome to this forum!

I agree with you that crying for 3 hours is tough on your son, you, the teachers, and the other children! Your son is young to be separated from you or your husband for 3 hours, especially since he can't communicate.

What is the "learning program"? Do you have any other options, such as a parent-child small-group class at a recreation center or some other community location? You could also start letting him experience “story time” for very young children at your local library, with you or your husband present. Lots of visits to parks and playgrounds could be good ways to be around other children, too.

It’s good that you got an evaluation and that you are starting early intervention services at home. You mentioned that you didn’t really understand the comments that were made about your son’s social engagement and play. Be sure to ask any and all questions that you have until you feel you do understand what was being expressed about this area of your son’s development. It’s important.

Being a stay-at-home parent—whether the mother or the father—means different things to different people. This can range, on one end, from needing to attend to a lot of other family or work-related responsibilities, which results in simply “watching” the child so he is safe and cared for, to, on the other end of the scale, engaging actively with the child, doing things together and talking a lot, during most of the child’s waking hours. Children who are not meeting all of the developmental milestones really need a high amount of specific, deliberate interaction with a parent or very significant caregiver throughout the day. Learning to really play with and talk with a young child, especially one who may prefer to be in his own world, takes knowledge and effort. Make sure you and your husband ask the specialist who comes to your home for specific input about playing and talking with your son. As I always say, some ways of talking are better than others for helping a child develop speech and language abilities.

I hope this is helpful and that you will write again!

Best wishes!

Mary Lou
Mary Lou B. Johnson, M.S.,CCC-SLP

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